A victim mentality is formed by a lifetime of abuse and constant rejection. It is a sense of worthlessness that just snowballs on itself. The victim feels hopeless and often jealous or envious of those who don’t experience such abuse and rejection. As a consequence she can become very negative, only setting herself up for more rejection. For a Christian, this is especially difficult because of the expectations that she should be “like Christ”. This only sets her up to see herself as a disappointment to God as well as the human race.
Often she finds judgement and criticism when she hopes for mercy and grace. This creates an even larger snowball and more self loathing. When this has been the experience for an entire lifetime, it is nothing short of a miracle to change this mentality. She cannot do it alone but, God makes all things possible. When her hope is in Him, she can learn to be victorious in spite of her circumstances. She can have joy in the midst of rejection. She can be light in the darkness. She can pray for her enemies and love them from a safe distance. It is her choice to remain defeated or to claim the victory that is already hers. This is very personal to me. This is the battle I have fought for decades. I choose to believe God.
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