1 Corinthians 10:13
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
Today has been particularly difficult for me. I don’t know why today, but I can’t get her off my mind. I miss the friend that I let go of a couple months ago. I keep reminding myself of why I had to let go. This keeps me focused on reality instead of the deception that things will be different. I have this ideal in my mind of what I want our friendship to be like. But, if I am honest with myself, it is only a fantasy. It is so important to have a support system in times like this. Accountability is a must. To try to overcome addiction of any kind without it is not wise. The addict needs people she can trust to hold her up in times of weakness.
Often toxic relationships continue because those involved believe it is something that it isn’t. They deny the truth of what it really is. It’s just like with a drug or alcohol addiction. The addict thinks she doesn’t have a problem or that the addiction is harmless. She actually believes the thing she is addicted to is helping her, or good for her somehow, (whether it be by a temporary escape or a false sense of comfort). The truth is this; She will get a temporary fix that only makes the problem even worse. The addiction is her enemy. Your addiction is your enemy. Never see it as a friend.
I am writing this to myself today as much as I write for the reader who has any type of addiction (relational or otherwise). The addiction will never fill the void you are trying to fill. It will only steal your life and make the void even bigger. This will cause you to seek that fix again to continue to deepen the gorge between you and God. God is the only way to fill the emptiness you are experiencing. Addiction is idol worship. It is putting that thing first above God. Give God His rightful place and see if you don’t experience victory.
When you feel the urge to cave in to your addiction, cave in to God instead. Fall on your face and cry out with all your heart. Seek His will. He will come. He will fill that empty place. He will give you the strength to stand firm against the deceiver and overcome temptation. He is the only source of security that is actually secure. He is everything you need to experience victory! Will you trust Him?
Food For thought:
Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! (Matthew 7, 7-10 NIV)
RhemaJoy Ministries 